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For each item below, answer the following question: "When I am in interpersonal situations (such as with close friends, with strangers, at work, at social gatherings, and so on), in general how important is it to me that I act or appear or am treated this way?" Use the following rating scale:
1. When I am with him/her/them, it is... 0 1 2 3 4 ...that I appear confident2. When I am with him/her/them, it is... 0 1 2 3 4 ...that I not reveal my positive feelings for them3. When I am with him/her/them, it is... 0 1 2 3 4 ...that I feel connected to them4. When I am with him/her/them, it is... 0 1 2 3 4 ...that I appear forceful5. When I am with him/her/them, it is... 0 1 2 3 4 ...that I conform to their expectations6. When I am with him/her/them, it is... 0 1 2 3 4 ...that I am unique7. When I am with him/her/them, it is... 0 1 2 3 4 ...that I keep my guard up8. When I am with him/her/them, it is... 0 1 2 3 4 ...that I put their needs before mine9. When I am with him/her/them, it is... 0 1 2 3 4 ...that they acknowledge when I am right10. When I am with him/her/them, it is... 0 1 2 3 4 ...that I not make a social blunder11. When I am with him/her/them, it is... 0 1 2 3 4 ...that they show interest in what I have to say12. When I am with him/her/them, it is... 0 1 2 3 4 ...that I attack back when I am attacked13. When I am with him/her/them, it is... 0 1 2 3 4 ...that I not get into an argument14. When I am with him/her/them, it is... 0 1 2 3 4 ...that they not deceive me15. When I am with him/her/them, it is... 0 1 2 3 4 ...that they not know what I am thinking or feeling16. When I am with him/her/them, it is... 0 1 2 3 4 ...that they not see me as getting in their way17. When I am with him/her/them, it is... 0 1 2 3 4 ...that I get the chance to voice my views18. When I am with him/her/them, it is... 0 1 2 3 4 ...that I appear aloof19. When I am with him/her/them, it is... 0 1 2 3 4 ...that they support me when I am having problems20. When I am with him/her/them, it is... 0 1 2 3 4 ...that I keep the upper hand21. When I am with him/her/them, it is... 0 1 2 3 4 ...that I do what they want me to do22. When I am with him/her/them, it is... 0 1 2 3 4 ...that I express myself openly23. When I am with him/her/them, it is... 0 1 2 3 4 ...that I not show I care about them24. When I am with him/her/them, it is... 0 1 2 3 4 ...that I get along with them25. When I am with him/her/them, it is... 0 1 2 3 4 ...that they respect my privacy26. When I am with him/her/them, it is... 0 1 2 3 4 ...that I not make mistakes in front of them27. When I am with him/her/them, it is... 0 1 2 3 4 ...that they understand me28. When I am with him/her/them, it is... 0 1 2 3 4 ...that I put my needs first29. When I am with him/her/them, it is... 0 1 2 3 4 ...that I live up to their expectations 30. When I am with him/her/them, it is... 0 1 2 3 4 ...that they respect what I have to say31. When I am with him/her/them, it is... 0 1 2 3 4 ...that they keep their distance from me32. When I am with him/her/them, it is... 0 1 2 3 4 ...that they not reject me33. When I am with him/her/them, it is... 0 1 2 3 4 ...that I not back down when disagreements arise34. When I am with him/her/them, it is... 0 1 2 3 4 ...that I not say something stupid35. When I am with him/her/them, it is... 0 1 2 3 4 ...that they come to me with their problems36. When I am with him/her/them, it is... 0 1 2 3 4 ...that I am the one in charge37. When I am with him/her/them, it is... 0 1 2 3 4 ...that I not make them angry38. When I am with him/her/them, it is... 0 1 2 3 4 ...that I have an impact on them39. When I am with him/her/them, it is... 0 1 2 3 4 ...that I do better than them40. When I am with him/her/them, it is... 0 1 2 3 4 ...that I make them feel happy41. When I am with him/her/them, it is... 0 1 2 3 4 ...that they not tell me what to do42. When I am with him/her/them, it is... 0 1 2 3 4 ...that I not expose myself to the possibility of rejection43. When I am with him/her/them, it is... 0 1 2 3 4 ...that they are considerate44. When I am with him/her/them, it is... 0 1 2 3 4 ...that I avenge insults and injustices against me45. When I am with him/her/them, it is... 0 1 2 3 4 ...that I go along with what they want to do46. When I am with him/her/them, it is... 0 1 2 3 4 ...that they show me respect47. When I am with him/her/them, it is... 0 1 2 3 4 ...that they see me as cool and unemotional48. When I am with him/her/them, it is... 0 1 2 3 4 ...that they approve of me49. When I am with him/her/them, it is... 0 1 2 3 4 ...that I am obeyed when I am in authority50. When I am with him/her/them, it is... 0 1 2 3 4 ...that I not expose myself to ridicule51. When I am with him/her/them, it is... 0 1 2 3 4 ...that they stay with me when things aren't going well52. When I am with him/her/them, it is... 0 1 2 3 4 ...that I win if there is an argument53. When I am with him/her/them, it is... 0 1 2 3 4 ...that I not embarrass myself54. When I am with him/her/them, it is... 0 1 2 3 4 ...that they see me as responsible55. When I am with him/her/them, it is... 0 1 2 3 4 ...that I appear detached56. When I am with him/her/them, it is... 0 1 2 3 4 ...that they think I am a nice person57. When I am with him/her/them, it is... 0 1 2 3 4 ...that they admit it when they are wrong58. When I am with him/her/them, it is... 0 1 2 3 4 ...that I keep my thoughts or feelings to myself59. When I am with him/her/them, it is... 0 1 2 3 4 ...that they show concern for how I am feeling60. When I am with him/her/them, it is... 0 1 2 3 4 ...that they mind their own business61. When I am with him/her/them, it is... 0 1 2 3 4 ...that they not get angry with me62. When I am with him/her/them, it is... 0 1 2 3 4 ...that they listen to what I have to say63. When I am with him/her/them, it is... 0 1 2 3 4 ...that I not reveal what I am really like64. When I am with him/her/them, it is... 0 1 2 3 4 ...that they not get their feelings hurt
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