Extra Credit Four/ Chapter 7-- Attachment Style
 

 
We have been reading and talking about the bonds that babies form with their parents.  One important indicator of our early bonds to caregivers is Attachment Style.  Our attachment style emerges long before we have begun developing language or memories of our interactions with parents.  Still it is interesting to speculate and think about your current attachment style (with friends, family, lovers) and see if you can link it to the experiences you can recall in your upbringing.  Read the following descriptions and choose which one best describes you (often most of us feel a couple describe us --- but pick one).  Talk about how this plays itself out in your life both past and present, any changes you've noticed over the years, and any particular parenting behaviors or life events that may have contributed to this style:

1. "It is relatively easy for me to become emotionally close to others. I am comfortable depending on others and having others depend on me. I don't worry about being alone or having others not accept me."

 
2. "I am comfortable without close emotional relationships. It is very important to me to feel independent and self-sufficient, and I prefer not to depend on others or have others depend on me."

3. "I want to be completely emotionally intimate with others, but I often find that others are reluctant to get as close as I would like. I am uncomfortable being without close relationships, but I sometimes worry that others don't value me as much as I value them."

 
1.  Secure attachment
2.  Avoidant attachment
3.  Anxious attachment



Type your response into a one page response.  If you don't respond fully to the prompt, you won't receive the extra credit.
 
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